Tuesday, September 29, 2009

~We have got to do better~

You know, in this day and time we should try to do more, do better, work to uplift and protect our young children. This is why mentors are needed, this is why teachers are needed, this is why YOU are needed to help PROTECT our children. This could've been one of your relatives. For those that turn your back and say "It doesn't affect me..." Take a good look at your child or young adult relative, be it male or female, even take a good look in the mirror. It does.....affect you! US! Need a mentor or help? Ask for it!~Phatgurllove~

Monday, September 28, 2009

~Being Fullfigured~

New Site for you guys today! Go check out:! is designed to be a social site. Going to be doing some collaborations with Milton. Check him out on FB.

Tuesday, September 22, 2009


Well needless to say I had a helluva hard time on last Wednesday setting up Phatgurllove Radio. Technical Difficulties out tha wahzoo and I was so disappointed. So with that being said...~~PHATGURLLOVE RADIO~~ DEBUT ON WEDNESDAY 9/30/09! I will be on this time! I promise! I have so much I want to talk about and hopefully you will be there to listen or participate in the chat room and I will shout ya'll out on the air. The same thing still applies: I will also provide you with great music and spoken word to keep you very well entertained. If want to recite your poetry or you just want to say hello, don't hesitate to call. The number is: (347) 855-8245! I look forward to hearing from you! Don't hesitate to send me an email also: and let me know how you feel about the show!

Friday, September 18, 2009

Not Necessary

It just doesn't matter anymore. This life I'm carrying. The man that helped me make this mess

doesn't want a relationship; even though I thought we were getting married. So that's why I

gotta dip down to the clinic, you know take the scenic- route so I won't think about having any

doubts about what I'm gonna do. Mama gotta live too. Changing diapers and tying little shoes

just ain't my thang. But that thang it's what’s got me going here in the first place. Thinking about

that little face. Will he or she look like me or their raggedy ass daddy? Nope not gonna think

about it. I'm tired of being sick. Already throwing up, it's not even been 4 months yet. I wonder

what my momma would say. She had me anyway and look how I turned out, don't want another

mouth- to feed taking care of others needs. I got just enough for me. No more talk about that, I

don't feel like getting fat I'm trying to maintain my figure. Doing all of this just for some “ninja.”

I don't have time for late night feedings, and rocking this child to sleep I'm not down for that

either, every day of the week. But I do remember the times my mother held me and told me it

would be ok, I would enjoy those hugs and kisses then go right back outside and play. Did I feel a

flutter? I didn't feel nothing, that's just my imagination. I can't imagine making room for a

changing station. I need time for myself Im still young. I won’t have time to have fun. Do I want

a daughter or a son? I gotta go to work, gotta go to school. When am I gonna have time to do

what I wanna do when I got you? Naw'll unh-uh it ain't gone be me walking around talking

about my baby daddy. I gotta get this done. I hate to go that route it will be my 3rd one. I don't

know what to say I can't picture me walking around with a baby. Preventing me from dating and

having a good time. Just to sit at home and listen to them whine. Not just ain't gone work

. Walking around here gotta miss work for dr's appointments and taking pre-natal vitamins. Not

getting hit on by so many fine men, because of the shape I’m in…naw'll uh-uh it ain't gone be

me...I’m not pushing a stroller up the street. Worrying about loose teeth, making sure their little

hair and clothes are neat....maybe one day when I'm sure. I’ll be more mature and will be able to

endure the pain of labor and be more stable and in a better relationship with a better man-who

will do all they can for us and so that we'll have enough, so our life wont be as rough. I know I

need to be tough. I just can't right now. I don't know how. I can't do it you see, I can't have a


Not right now it just ain't necessary.

Wednesday, September 16, 2009


Debut of Phatgurllove Radio Tonight @ 11pm. Tonight's topic: Who is Phatgurllove and who loves Phatgurls? I will also provide you with great music and spoken word to keep you very well entertained. If want to recite your poetry or you just want to say hello, don't hesitate to call. The number is: (347) 855-8245! I look forward to hearing from you!

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Monday, September 14, 2009

What I've been waiting for.......

Ya'll will never believe who the new host is of BREATHE TO THINK IS?? It is me Phatgurllove, I, Moi!! I am so excited about it. I was offered the position and I graciously accepted it. I am ready for this. I feel like I am a great fit for this. This is a dream realized for me. I will be the Featured Artist on September 24th and I will also be co-hosting along side Black Diamond. (Another Artist) I am so thankful for all of these blessings that are just falling from the sky. It looks like I need to send some praises up real quick. I received my 3rd draft for my logo and I must say that it is awesome! I can't wait for you guys to see it. I plan on revealing it really soon. The first hosting event will occur on October 1st in our new location. It's a poetry contest going on to sign up and register please view the sign up form, complete it and email it back to me. The form is located here. My email address is The Phatgurllove Radio Show will air Wednesday night at 11pm. I will post the call in numbers soon and hopefully you'll tune in to listen. I would like to say, you can achieve your goals, no matter how long it takes. Just make sure you make time for you and what you strive to do because life is too short and there really is a such thing as second chances, and thirds, and fourths...etc. I love you guys. ( Like So continue to stop by and leave comments if their are any or just say hello. I will provide more details on tomorrow about the poetry contest. To all of my new subscribers THANK YOU. To those that have decided to follow me...continue to come along for the ride. I can use the company. Wanna win $500?? Enter the contest.

Friday, September 11, 2009

~On The Air~

Phatgurllove Radio is coming soon! We will talk about all issues related to being Obese and Overweight. I will speak to BBW's and BHM's. We will discuss their experiences and how it has shaped their life. Dating, children, employment, and socialization are all affected when overweight. I will be playing the best of Old School, R&B, Hip-Hop, and Neo-soul radio. I am so excited about this. This has been a long time coming! There will also be an open mic session on a weeknight. (TBD) There will also be a Poem of the day related to the show topic. Sometimes there will be a co-host! I look forward to hearing from you. Please be ready to call in and share or chat with us! Below is some information that I found quite disturbing.....

FYI: Obesity by Race and Ethnicity

New Obesity Data Shows Blacks Have the Highest Rates of Obesity

Blacks had 51 percent higher prevalence of obesity, and Hispanics had 21 percent higher obesity prevalence compared with whites. (2006-2008)

Greater prevalences of obesity for blacks and whites were found in the South and Midwest than in the West and Northeast. Hispanics in the Northeast had lower obesity prevalence than Hispanics in the Midwest, South or West.

Retrieved from here...

We need to do something and fast! We have a generation of children out there that need us and we must set an example for them by being able to be healthy and eat right so we can grow old with our children. Lead by example! Want to get started early? Go here and view some nice simple and HEALTHY recipes. If you know of any other sites, please leave them in the comment section and I will be sure to provide you with my review of the site and give them a shout out when on the air! Thanks to any new subscribers and thank you to the ones that have been hanging on! Your walk with me is greatly appreciated!

2008 State Obesity Rates

State % State % State % State %
Alabama 31.4 Illinois 26.4 Montana 23.9 Rhode Island 21.5
Alaska 26.1 Indiana 26.3 Nebraska 26.6 South Carolina 30.1
Arizona 24.8 Iowa 26.0 Nevada 25.0 South Dakota 27.5
Arkansas 28.7 Kansas 27.4 New Hampshire 24.0 Tennessee 30.6
California 23.7 Kentucky 29.8 New Jersey 22.9 Texas 28.3
Colorado 18.5 Louisiana 28.3 New Mexico 25.2 Utah 22.5
Connecticut 21.0 Maine 25.2 New York 24.4 Vermont 22.7
Delaware 27.0 Maryland 26.0 North Carolina 29.0 Virginia 25.0
Washington DC 21.8 Massachusetts 20.9 North Dakota 27.1 Washington 25.4
Florida 24.4 Michigan 28.9 Ohio 28.7 West Virginia 31.2
Georgia 27.3 Minnesota 24.3 Oklahoma 30.3 Wisconsin 25.4
Hawaii 22.6 Mississippi 32.8 Oregon 24.2 Wyoming 24.6
Idaho 24.5 Missouri 28.5 Pennsylvania 27.7

Thursday, September 10, 2009

It's falling into place........

Ya'll just don't know how thankful I am! I have had some great news today. Remember when I was telling you about how I wanted to be a motivational speaker to children/young adults??? ~Waiting...~Yeah, that post, I spoke to a Counselor tonight that works for the YMCA and he informed me that he is always looking for someone to speak to his kids. (~insert inside scream here!) He asked me what I wanted to talk about. I informed him that I would talk to them about College prep, being that they are teens and in College Prep right now. I told him I would also talk to them about how to relieve stress..via creative writing. Also informing them to beware of stereotypes and being stereotypical. He told me that it sounded great and he would love to set up an appointment with me to set up a time and date! Assignment# One! Priceless! ~Keying up shouting music~

The second part is that I am being featured!!! I have been chosen by the Breathe to Think Owner about being a featured Poetess on September 24th! Check out the profile here! It's all coming together! I just want to say thank you for all of your continuous support! Thank you to my new subscribers for following me, again your presence is welcome! Check out my website at: and sign the guestbook!

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Overcoming Obstacles

You know, there are alot of people that actually want to see you fail. They take pride in things not going your way. These people are known as haters. They are always negative whether it be direct or indirect. What you must remember is that these people have existed forever. Be careful who you choose to associate yourself with. Everyone isn't always your friend. These types of individuals can drain you emotionally and that can affect you physically. Take it from me, I know. As you move forward in your transition whether it be weight loss, a new career choice, or even a new hairdo, someone is going to talk about it and you. You must stay grounded and remain true to yourself. You are responsible for your success not anyone else. The choices you choose to make are your own and no one else has to live with your decisions but you. With that being said. I am still writing and I have a lot going on with PGL Productions. (Ya like that huh?) I am making myself an open vessel. I am open for all ideas and suggestions. Anything you don't like? Feel free to comment and I will let you know my honest opinion. Then I in turn will tell you what I think about yours.

Tuesday, September 8, 2009


That tickles. What? That sound. Your voice beats against my eardrum softly as you whisper in my ear. Causing a melody in my heart.

When I first heard your voice, I wondered of course if you were the one for me.

But the strength and confidence in your voice caused the inflection in my voice to change.

I went from where are you from to where I wanna be, when you spoke those soft, sensual words to me.

Teasing my earlobe with your tongue, girls just wanna have fun. I hear what you're saying, you're talking about laying up with me?

Hmph we'll see, you were sounding intelligent at first using those big words to beat softly against my eardrum...but you know what?

I ain't getting none.

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Monday, September 7, 2009

Phatgurllove's Poem of the Day

Sunday, September 6, 2009

Overcoming fear and anxiety

So, I have been sitting around here and peeping into others blogospheres seeing what's going on in everyone else's life. I have hit the place where fear and anxiety are starting to dance around in my little Ole head. "What if I never get to do another Spoken Word Performance?" "What if I really don't make it?" "What if I never succeed in what I'm trying to do?" In times like this, I used to run for food and stuff myself silly so that I would feel "better" about whatever it was that is bothering me. Now that is not an option, so I must consider what it is that I am afraid of. Let's say it together and loud so that everyone can hear you boys and girls.."F-A-I-L-U-R-E." That's right failure.

I must see this through. This is something that must take place and it's also something that I've been wanting to do for a long time. I have been working on about 5 pieces at once to add to the book and to perform. The only issue that I have been experiencing now is going to another event to perform. They are not on my schedule, which has also made me realize that there may be a need for a Friday, Saturday, and Sunday night Spoken Word Gathering that will allow you to release all weekend and be ready to start all over again on Monday. Phatgurllove Productions Inc, Phat Cipher, Phatgurllove Jones....hmmm I think I might like that.

I have signed up for a Blog talk Radio station. Im trying to figure out what I want to do with it. I know, but I want to have all my ducks in a row first. I want to incorporate Neo-soul, R&B, and Ol Skool with some Spoken word in between from a few local artist and some that call in. That's about it. No hot topics or current events, this would be strictly music and words...vice-versa. But back to my main concern.....I have struggled so long to be accepted at times it still follows me. I accept myself and that's all that matters. The words that I write and speak come from the heart and that's all that matters. If you can relate to me then we both share a common bond through these words. If you have never been there, then take a minute to back track and catch up to where I have arrived to thus far. I am going to accomplish my goals. I am not going to fight myself for this battle. So far, I've already won. ~Phatgurllove~

Thursday, September 3, 2009

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You know I had to incorporate the wouldn't be Phatabulous without it! I am being featured ya'll! My first time being fe..I mean..pheatured!~smile~ Ms. Yvette Noel, founder of UdoU clothing line is going to "feature" one of my works on her blog. I am so glad that she found my work to be inspiring! Checkout her line it's HAWT!www.udouclothing.comHere is what she had to say:

"We don't know each other but I was drawn to your words. I am now in the process of working on my blog and I wanted to know if I could feature one of your written works on my blog."

How Phatabulous is that!? I just want to say thank you to all of my subscribers, followers, stalkers or whatever your self proclaimed title is~lol Thank you for taking the time to read my work! You are appreciated!

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

RHYME & REASON Spoken Word Poetry Documentary